THE MALE VIRGO/TAURUS  :  STRUGGLING FOR ADULTHOOD

You replace your lack of self-confidence with your sharp skills, developing expertise, technical knowledge and competency in specialized topics.  You are excessively meticulous and this is your foundation for your pettiness towards others.  You are a perfectionist.  But you always carry this too far, interfering and heaping criticism on others.  This drives people away, people you actually would want to accept you, but you seem not to make the cause-and-effect connection.

You worry a lot.  You worry about things that other people consider trivial and unimportant but this is due to your tendency to emotionally isolate; you are simply unaware that these details are trivial and unimportant.  Your isolation distorts your perceptions. 

You have marvelous control of an outward façade, exuding perfect charm, generosity and persuasion.  You see yourself in this façade as the ideal of sociable.  But you lack self-reliance, and have not developed the ability to see your soul stand alone.  You can be mercilessly self-critical and you do not see the damage this does to your love of self.   Without gendering self-love first, you do not experience the next level, that of opening your heart to accept and help others which is the soul’s completion and self-fulfillment. 

When you are able to relax, you can be impressively articulate.  Your mind is practical, cool, and impersonal. You save ideas for later use.  Your thinking is shrewd and logical, and you feel it embodies common sense.  You remove yourself from emotional evaluation which trips you up from catching your common-sense mistakes in real time.  You are prolific at condemning yourself for how you think others see you, which supports your irrational drive for emotional isolation.   You feel others judge you as lacking when in fact they don't until you lash out at them.  You believe others will not accept you in your real light.  You, therefore, contort this perceived rejection by the world to give yourself permission for cruelty towards the world.  You thereby fulfill your own fear - your negative action causes judgement to come your way.

You can be successful because your bounteous gifts are natural but you are not ambitious unless pushed or guided by loved ones, or unfortunately influenced by those who would manipulate.   You prefer your ego to your emotions, and you expect assistance from others to the point of servitude.  When the “tough get going”, you become apathetic, as if figuring it out is too difficult for you, and you will wait for others to do it, even if they ruin the outcome.  You can always criticize them later, for one of your strongest traits is post-facto intolerance.

You perversely enjoy the dark sides of narrow-mindedness and secrets.  You are impulsive and forceful, rarely reflective.  You have not learned team-building but resort to bullying ways and stubborness.  You have no patience for anyone who might bring ideas to the table which shadow your egotism.  You ponder course of action and act upon information slowly, which gives unfortunate opportunity to be outrun by the more conniving personalities of friends and family.  Then you must suffer the frustration and complexity of fixing resulting problems.

You are attractive and magnetic.  People want to be available to you because they initially see you as a great man.  You require absolute loyalty and servitude from those around you but you mostly ignore their needs.  You feel the world is in harmony if everyone plays by your rules.

You are compelled to gratify your enormous physical appetites and you do not consider consequences.  You are more concerned sexually with stimuli than with love.  You have yet to identify that the hollow places in your soul are direct results of this orientation. 

Your emotions are attracted to possessions.  You respond to creativity with energy and  intensity.  You hone your inborn talent for precise reckoning, careful craftsmanship and mastery of the technical details.    You prefer convention in your creativity and business.  You feel abandoned and personally wounded when your ideas are not treasured by others, and your reaction is blistering.   You live in fear of loss of dignity and you will not forget childhood hurts or impressions.  Emotional growth is your greatest challenge.  You fear that it would be too hurtful to face the challenge of self-improvement and discover how to grow into a caring adult, so you avoid it altogether.  Your growth into adulthood will continue aborted until you tackle the psychological analysis of self.